I’ve decided to create this site to increase the focus on wives, sweethearts, husbands, children, families, siblings, friends, bosses, etc. of combat vets, and their unique problems, as they interact with PTSD-affected veterans.
With thousands upon thousands of veterans returning home from Iraq, Afghanistan, and other hotspots around the world, the challenges of readjustment to civilian life are upon us.
I know of where I speak, as I have personal experience with combat-related PTSD. As a former wife of a Vietnam veteran, I lived with PTSD long before it had a name. After serving two tours in the Marine Corps (1966-68) my former husband came home with complex emotional problems.
This website is not intended to focus on him, or denigrate him in anyway, but to relate and explore what living with untreated PTSD did to me, my self-esteem and my psyche, and how I eventually overcame most of the negative effects. There is hope. You can help yourself and your veteran.
I believe my story could be that of thousands, even millions, of other wives and girlfriends, who’ve cared for vets who have been through combat.
Much of what has been learned about PTSD has come from the study of Vietnam vets and their families. Aphrodite Matsakis, author of Vietnam Wives-Women and Children Surviving Life with Veterans Suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, writes “The wives and children of Vietnam veterans are the forgotten warriors of the Vietnam War. For them the war never ended, it just came home.”
Never again should the families of PTSD-affected combat vets become “forgotten warriors.” Today, we are blessed with the inter-connectedness of the internet. No longer should people suffer in silence and ignorance.
Those of us who have survived PTSD, have an obligation to share our stories, and to try and alleviate the suffering of our current generation. That is my goal with my writings, and this website. I care, and I’m here to help.