In my last post, I wrote about the negative effects of “unresolved grief.” The website www.maketheconnection.net has some really good information on how best to deal with grief.
From their site, they note that “Every day, Veterans connect with proven resources, services, and support to address the issues impacting their lives. If the grief over loss of a friend or family member is interfering with your health and well-being or getting in the way of your relationships, daily activities, or ability to do your job, you may want to reach out for support. Consider connecting with:
- A spiritual or religious advisor
- A bereavement support group
- Your family doctor: Ask if your doctor has experience treating Veterans or can refer you to someone who does
- A mental health professional with experience in grief counseling
- Your local VA Medical Center or Vet Center: VA specializes in the care and treatment of Veterans
Here I’ll share some of my personal experience with grief:
During my estrangement from my first husband, a Nam combat vet, I reached out to the Veterans Outreach Center for counseling. The sessions were extremely helpful, until they were cut short once my divorce was final. VA policy stated that I became ineligible for services due to the divorce.This development only added to my feelings of loss and caused me great anquish.
Looking back now, I know that at that time I needed intensive therapy, but could not afford it. Eventually I descended into a deep, clinical depression. It was agony trying to get my life back together after that debilitating episode.
I did learn a lot from the experience though. When my father and mother died, I reached out for the proper support through the Hospice that had taken care of them. It helped me express my feelings, and eventually move on with life.
So if you’re struggling with the loss of a friend, loved one, or battle buddy, it’s better to find someone who you can share your feelings with. Emotional pain has to be dealt with. Professionals are trained to help you acknowledge and move through the grief.
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